Collection of Words III

1) Bizarre travel plans are dancing lessons from God
[Kurt Vonnegut]

2) When you’ve got something to prove, there’s nothing greater than a challenge.

3) Nobody’s ever drowned in his own sweat.

4) A ship in harbor is safe – but that is not what ships are built for

[John A. Shedd]

5) The key to failure is trying to please everybody

[Bill Cosby]

6) Travel light: own only what you carry with you. Know language. Know countries. Know people. Let your memory be your travel bag.

[Alexander Solzhenitsyn]

7) Be a fountain, not a drain

8) We travel not to escape life, but for life not to escape us

9) I will go anywhere, as long as it’s forward

[David Livingstone]

10) To travel is to live

[Hans Christian Anderson]

11) No man is a fool to give up what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.

12) The biggest mistake is not making one.

13) If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.

[G. Anderson]

14) If your heart is pulling you in a direction that has mystery and wonder, trust it and follow it.

[David Wilcox]

15) May all your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing views where something strange and more beautiful and more full of wonder than your deepest dream waits for you.

[Edward Abbey]

16) Regret for the things we did can be tempered with time: it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.

[Sydney J. Harris]

17) You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover will be yourself.

[Alan Alda]

18) Do not be timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.

[Ralph Waldo Emerson]

19) If you want a place in the sun, you must leave the shade of the family tree.

[Osage saying]

20) What we all try to complain about most people are those things we don’t like about ourselves.

21) Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.

[Goethe]

22) You can have anything if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.

[Sheila Graham]

23) The thing always happens that you really believe in: and the belief in a thing makes it happen.

[Frank Lloyd Wright]

24) A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.

25) Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.

[Reggie Leach]

26) A year from now you may wish you have started today.

27) Be bold – and mighty forces will come to your aid.

[Basil King]

28) The future always belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

[Eleanor Roosevelt]

29) If you’re going to do something wrong, at least enjoy it.

[Leo Rosten]

30) To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.

31) Every man has the right to risk his own life in order to save it.

[Jean Jacques Rousseau]

32) There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.

[Christopher Moley]

33) Shiver awake at the doing of your dreams.

[Bob Savino]

34) There is 2 magical days in your life. The first day is the day you were born and the latter is when you know why.

35) Whatever you’re ready for is ready for you.

36) The bolder your promises, the richer your bounty

[Vickie L. Milazzo]

37) Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.

38) Do something everyday that scares you.

[Eleanor Roosevelt]

39) To speak another language is to open another door to an entire universe.

[Ignacio Padilla]

40) Only when we no longer afraid do we begin to live.

[Dorothy Thompson]

41) The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.

42) Life is a daring adventure or nothing.

[Helen Keller]

43) Intelligence is like river. The deeper it is, the less noise it makes.

44) Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?

[Mary Oliver]

45) To live is the rarest thing. Most people exist, that is all.

[Oscar Wilde]

46) If you can dream it, you can do it!

[Walt Disney]

47) Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.

[Plato]

48) Intelligence is like underwear. We all should have it but we shouldn’t show it off.

49) No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he comes home and rest his head on his old, familiar pillow.

[Lin Yutang]

50) One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.

[Henry Miller]

Collection of Words II

1) Be like a postage stamp. Stick to one thing until it reaches its destination.

2) To awaken quite alone in a strange town is one of the pleasantest sensations in the world.

[Freya Stark]

3) All journeys have secret destinations of which the traveler in unaware.

[Martin Buber]

4) When one door of happiness closes, another opens but often we took so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.

[Helen Keller]

5) Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you thought could never be yours.

[Audrey Hepburn]

6) Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes furthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare.

[Dale Carnegie]

7) A wish changes nothing. A decision changes everything.

8) A person is a success if they get up in the morning and gets to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.

[Bob Dylan]

9) Stories, if they become alive in the mind of the listener, wrap themselves around the journey like arms and legs, holding the traveler within their embrace, carrying her along.

[Irene Guilford]

10) Most of us have dreamed, if just for a moment of chucking life’s encrumbrances and wondering free through exotic parts of mystery and magic.

[Theodore Nelson and Andrea Gross]

11) Begin doing what you want to do NOW. We are living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand – and melting like a snowflake.

[Marie Beyon Ray]

12) Afoot and lighthearted I take the open road, healthy, free, the world is before me leading wherever I choose.

[Walt Whitman]

13) Travel not only stirs the blood – it also gives birth to the spirit.

[Alexandra David-Neel]

14) To shut our eyes is to travel.

[Emily Dickinson]

15) People travel because it teaches them things they could learn no other way.

[Lance Morrow]

16) We are defined more by detours and distractions in life than by the narrow road towards goals.

[William Stanford]

17) Wherever the man wanders, he still remains tethered by the chain that links him to his kind.

[Alexander Kinglake]

18) Be ye lamps unto yourself.

[Gautama Buddha]

19) Most of my treasured memories of travel are recollections of sitting.

[Robert Thomas Allen]

20) The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless acts of kindness and love.

[William Woodsworth]

21) There is someone out there who needs you. You must live your life so that person can find you.

[Jan Phillips]

22) Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

[Oscar Wilde]

23) Wherever you go becomes a part of you somehow.

[Anita Desai]

24) Life is too short to waste on speed.

[Edward Abbey]

25) Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things…I am tempted to think these are no little things.

[Bruce Burton]

26) I would love you all the day, Every night we would kiss and play,

If with me you’d fondly stray, Over the hills and far away.

[John Gray]

27) Think not that you can direct the course of love; for love…directs your course.

[Kahlil Gibran]

28) Two of the greatest gifts we can give to our children are roots and wings.

[Hodding Carter]

29) And this is what the traveler discovers: in this great and endlessly fascinating world of ours, everywhere can be home.

[Meredith Moraine]

30) We are all have the extraordinary coded within is – waiting to be released.

[Jean Houston]

31) All travel is exploration of love.

[Duncan Fallowell]

32) If you are wise and know the art of travel, let yourself go on the stream of the unknown and accept whatever comes in the spirit in which the God may offer it.

[Freya Stark]

33) One of the greatest things about travel is you find how many good, kind people there are.

[Edith Wartone]

34) As much trouble as I’ve had on this little journey, I’m sure one day I’m going to look back and laugh.

[Steve Martin]

35) I have a compulsion to wander and return – a homing instinct like a mother bird.

[Bruce Chatwin]

36) Eres lo que es tu profundo y constante deseo,

como es tu deseo es tu voluntad,

como es tu voluntad es tu esfuerza,

y como es tu esfuerza es tu destino.

[Upanishad]

37) Todas las situaciones críticas tienen un relámpago que nos ciega o nos ilumina.

[Victor Hugo, Les Miserables]

38) Un buen viajero no tiene planes fijos y no está decidido para llegar.

[FNAC, 27/08/08, Madrid]

39) Winners are just ex-losers who got mad.

40) You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”

You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

[Eleanor Roosevelt]

41) The longer I live, the more I see that I am never wrong about anything, and that all the pains I have so humbly taken to verify my notions have only wasted my time.

[George Bernard Shaw]

42) Everything I did in my life that was worthwhile I caught hell for.

[Earl Warren]

43) Go as far as you can see. When you get there you’ll see farther.

44) This above all: to thine own be true,

And it must follow, as the night the day

Thou canst not then be false to any man.

[Shakespeare]

45) The heights by great man reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night.

[Henry Wadsworth Longfellow]

46) Saddle your dreams afore you ride’em

[Mary Webb, 1881-1927]

47) To laugh often and much;

to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;

to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friend;

to appreciate beauty;

to find the best in others;

to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;

to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded.

[Harry Emerson Fosdick]

48) For better it is to dare mighty things

to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in the grey twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.

[Theodore Roosevelt]

49) Procrastination is the fear of success.

People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the ‘Someday I’ll’ phylosophy.

[Dennis Waitley]

50) If you trap the moment before it’s ripe, the tears of repentance you’ll certainly wipe; But if once you let the ripe moment go, you can never wipe off the tears of woe.

[William Blake 1791]

Collection of Words I

1) We may affirm absolutely that nothing great in the world has been accomplished without passion.

[Hegel, 1832]

2) Men for the sake of getting a living, forget to live.

[Margaret Fuller, 1810-1850]

3) There is the greatest practical benefit in making a few failures early in life.

[T. H. Huxley]

4) You will make all kinds of mistakes but as long as you are generous and true and also fierce, you cannot hurt the world or even seriously distress her.

[Sir Winston Churchill]

5) If you want to win anything – a race, yourself, your life – you have to go a little berserk!

[George Sheehan]

6) You are beaten to earth?

Well, well what’s that?

Come up with a smiling face,

It’s nothing against you

to fall down flat

But to lie there – that’s a disgrace.

[Edmund Cooke]

7) There are 2 things to aim in life: First to get what you want and after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieves the second.

[Logan Pearsall Smith]

8) Don’t play for safety – it’s the most dangerous thing in the world.

[Hugh Walpole]

9) Have no fear for perfection – You’ll never reach it.

[Salvador Dalí]

10) It’s easy enough to be pleasant when life flows like a song,

but the one worthwhile is the one who will smile when everything goes dead wrong,

For the test of the heart is trouble and it always comes with the years,

And the smile that is worth all the praises of the Earth is the smile that shines through the tears.

11) There are 4 things which never come back again once they are gone; 1- the words said out, 2- the arrows shot, 3- the time past and 4- an opportunity lost.

12) We wear the mask that grins and lies

It shades our cheeks and shades our eyes

This debt we pay to human guile

With torn and bleeding hearts we smile.

13) Go the extra miles. It’s never crowded.

14) I have learned grace from the rivers,

Poise from the cliffs and peaks;

I have learned always to listen

for wisdom when beauty speaks.

15) There is no thrill in easy sailing where the skies are clear and blue,

There is no joy in merely doing things that anyone can do,

But there’s something that’s called satisfaction that is damned mighty sweet to take,

When you reach a destination that you thought you’d never make.

[Spirella]

16) In the depth of winter I finally learned there was in me invisible summer.

[Albert Camus]

17) Fear less, hope more; whine less, breathe more;

Talk less, say more; hate less, love more;

and all good things are yours.

18) For everything you have MISSED, you have GAINED something else.

[Ralph Waldo Emerson]

19) Unless you try to do something beyond what you already mastered, you will never grow.

[Ronald E. Osborn]

20) What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be.

[Ellen Burstyn]

21) You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.

[Wayne Dyer]

22) You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you.

[Brian Tracy]

23) There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning.

[Louis L’Amour]

24) Do or do not. There is no try.

[Yoda]

25) Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.

26) How a person masters his fate is more important than what his fate is.

[Wilhelm von Humboldt]

27) For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it,

For every truth there is an ear somewhere to hear it,

For every love there is a heart somewhere to receive it.

[Ivan Panin]

28) WONDER

Wonder to me, is a good place to be

It helps to to think, it helps you to see

Life’s full of twists and turns will abound

But wonder and insights can guide you around

Explore what you may and fill up your mind

And hold in your heart the mysteries you find

Wonder is the saying you yearn

And making a choice in which way you turn

The best path you take will always be right

Cause if you wrong, you can make it right

Each new step you take when you listen and hear

Will give you more courage and freedom from fear

So wonder my love, rid-off your doubt

And you will rejoice with how you turn out

And though you may fall and struggle too

Know that I’ll be there and will always love you

[edited from Jill Thieme’s poem to her daughter]

The Guide: How Not to Worry

Well I used to be a constant worrier and it did me no good. 75% of the images playing inside my head never happened. As for now no man with fangs appeared out of nothing, bite my neck and turn me into a Twilight phenomenon.

Nope. Not yet, and this is frustrating! I had been worried sick (for it to happen.)

Coming back to the topic, I am assuming each and everyone of us has been in a situation that we have been worried sick. We start sweating, our fragile little heart pumping, we can’t think straight, we start imagining things (normally bad, bad stuff; the boyfriend has been kidnapped by the terrorist for he is late 10 minutes), we can’t seem to catch our breath and butterflies flying in our stomach.

What’s that all about? What’s the big deal that made us feel so miserable, so stressed, so incredibly scared of life?

I don’t think we could resolve anything with worry.

I could list down many things, starting from shrinking bank account, credit card payments, bills, increasing  responsibility at work place, public speaking, wrinkles and aging, Mother-in-laws, husband and his extra curricular activities, boasting neighbors and relatives, children related problems; presence and absence of them, unemployment, retirement, death, hereditary or spreading diseases, lack or too many holidays, mortgage, car, singledom, marriage, widowhood, the list is endless.

This little sickness called worry could carry us to our deathbed as early as possible. With excessive palpitations, high blood pressure, lack of sleep, disturbed immune system and keeping at it for years to come, you can easily worry yourself to death.

Are you worried now?

So I am recommending you several suggestions. You can try and see if it’s working. If not, still we face the same ending 🙂 As Peter Pan said, Death is just another new adventure.

1) Meditate.

Surely you’re heard about meditating. The basic thing you need to understand is that meditation is learning how to breathe properly. You might think that it’s ridiculous to learn to do something you do every second of your everyday. Even babies do it brilliantly on the first second of their lives but notice when you’re worried you can’t catch your breath?

So breathe. Take a lungful of fresh air and keep it in for 10 seconds. Repeat this at least 10 times. Better still if you could bend and your hands barely touching your toes and slowly while inhaling you raise your hands up towards the ceiling while standing on your toes, just like what the kindergartens do.

And scream while exhale.

If you’re shy you can do it somewhere far from human (maybe Pluto), or sound-proofed room or vacant public toilet but I can tell you it’s nice.

If you prefer a low profile meditation then you can just do simple yoga or just sit and affirm a positive phrase in your head over and over again.

“I radiate love and happiness”

“I have means to travel around the World, whenever I want to”

“I am successful in whatever I do”

2) Exercise

One of the hormone affecting worry is adrenaline so it would be nice to start a regime and use that excess energy by exercising. When you exercise you feel good and you are channeling your energy in a positive way.

You don’t have to be up and running at 5 AM everyday. A brisk walk around the neighborhood is fine too.

Better than sitting still and worry, right?

3) Control your anxiety. Think positive.

This is what usually happen. You elaborate a rumor, say that maybe te love of your life is cheating on you or you failed a paper or you’re selected to attend an important interview or you missed a deadline or your sister is not yet back from tuition or your salary will be a week late than usual this month, etc and the first thing you do is?

Worry.

Examine your head. It starts to picture the happenings that will probably not take place.

You think about the bitch that dares to steal your only true love, what will happen to you if your husband leaves you, your children, what will the neighbors say, what will the future hold, you picture yourself working again paying bills for the beautiful car that you can’t afford alone. You cry.

You immediately picture endless hours of lecture, jeers from friends who passed the exam, the juniors mocking you because you failed an easy paper, the money, the shame, the examiners who doesn’t like your brilliant ideas, the chances of you failing again next exam. You cry.

You saw your future ahead of you. You saw the interviewers mocking your accent, your shoes, your clothes, you picture yourself failing to answer the questions and they laughing at you, you tell yourself you don’t actually deserve that job, that many deserving people would turn up that day with better CV, that you would get lost and arrive late. You cry.

You know the drill. This is not the first time you have these images. Stop this at once. You will do just fine. Most of it doesn’t even happen, so why waste your time worrying?

4) Food.

Don’t take too much caffeine if you want to sleep well (for some people the effect is worse than the rest. Some doesn’t have any at all) I have noticed that my heart beats faster with caffeine, palpitations and excessive sweating, even on night time so people like me should avoid caffeine after 4 PM.

Try good quality chocolates for calming effect. It has been said that eating chocolates will give you the same effect when you are falling in love, as it releases the same chemical.

So eat chocolates, it’s cheaper.

5) NO.

Maybe you’re not used to say NO to anyone, especially the ones you knew but saying NO does help to reduce your worry.

Notice that Asian culture doesn’t say NO very well and saying it, is considered as rude and taboo in certain culture so we bare all the necessities of too many YESes for the sake of No-NO reputation.

Say you really have too much on your plate or you are not into a co-worker while the rest of your colleagues try their best to set you up with him or you can’t seem to join the batch’s next reunion, anything of the sort, you can always say NO, rather than worry or invent little white lies.

My advise; say NO and shut up. They don’t need your excuses and besides, if they knew it, don’t give them reason to poke holes in it.

6) Help

If everything gets out of hands, get help. Find a friend, one trusted family member, boyfriend, girlfriends, some find comfort in strangers,  pour your heart in a piece of paper, etc. Human heart is not built to endure such task. You’re gonna have to let some steam go.

7) Accept and learn from experience.

Not being perfect is not a problem. We worried too much of our beautiful image in the eyes of other people that we forgot that we came to this Earth individually and we too would die in separate coffins, no matter what they think about us.

It’ o.k to be wrong. You can’t be right all your life.

Say you failed to get a job you always wanted. Don’t beat yourself for it. Remember, before this you are alive and well without that particular job, so not having that job this time doesn’t effect you anyway. You are still the same old person. You are not less than a person you were before the interview.

The problem was that you are getting ahead your yourself. You are already imagining things that you don’t own yet. So why worried because of imaginary extra bucks? You will survive. You’re o.k before and you’re o.k now. You can’t be unemployed all your life. You will somehow go out and face another meeting with some random interviewers and this time you might get it. Learn from the last lesson, you will get it eventually.

There is always another chance, another light, another day. Somebody somewhere would say YES.